Bachelorette' star's ex is telling all on TikTok: What happens when your ex is everywhere

 

When Jenn Tran, the current “Ba

chelorette” lead, first starred in Joey Graziadei’s “Bachelor” season, her ex, Matt Rossi, had something to say about it online. 

His first post was simple — a short clip of his eyes glued to the TV screen with a bowl of popcorn and the caption: “POV: your ex goes on the Bachelor.” But when millions of views flooded in, he decided to spill the details. 

Two days later, on February 28, he shared another TikTok with the full storytime. He also joked that he was “using her for clout,” before asking Tran to “give me another shot.”

When Jenn Tran, the current “Bachelorette” lead, first starred in Joey Graziadei’s “Bachelor” season, her ex, Matt Rossi, had something to say about it online. 

His first post was simple — a short clip of his eyes glued to the TV screen with a bowl of popcorn and the caption: “POV: your ex goes on the Bachelor.” But when millions of views flooded in, he decided to spill the details. 

Two days later, on February 28, he shared another TikTok with the full storytime. He also joked that he was “using her for clout,” before asking Tran to “give me another shot.

And he’s not the only person to go viral after disclosing their history with a reality TV contestant. 

On Friday, another TikTok user shared a video of their friend squealing and covering their eyes after an ex-boyfriend entered "Love Island USA" as the show’s surprise contestant (a “bombshell”). Influencer Fuhzz also shook "Love Island UK" fans by sharing that her ex had joined the villa. She used a Taylor Swift lyric as the TikTok audio, “So tell me everything is not about me. But what if it is?” 

“There is anger, hurt and maybe even embarrassment, especially if other people and their friends are witnessing this,” she says.

This can bring up feelings of "inadequacy and shame," adds Gigi Engle, a certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and sex expert at the LGBTQIA+ dating app Taimi.

"It can be confronting to see somebody who used to be such a big part of your life moving on in such a public way," Engle says. "You're like, 'Oh, look at what they're doing with their lives, and what am I doing with my life?'"

Remember that you can't control their actions

Gary Lewandowski, a psychology professor at Monmouth University and author of “Stronger Than You Think,” says it is important to remember that their actions are not about you.

"You can't control whether your partner goes on reality TV. You can't control what they post on social media," he says. "You have no control over them whatsoever. Nor should you try."